When we try to do God‘s work on this earth, it is much like when a young child of 6 or 7 years tries to help their parent with a task. The child doesn’t fully understand the task. Nor do they have the strength and skill to do it on their own. But the parent encourages them and allows them very small parts of the task so they will feel like they are helping. A father may ask his son to pass him a tool, even though it might take longer to describe the tool, then wait for the child to find it, and finally retrieve it, than to just grab it himself. A mother may do the same with a cooking utensil or food item while cooking.
In this same way, we as adults attempt to help God and do His work. We do not have the strength or the skills to truly do the task. But God gives us small pieces of a much larger and more complicated task that we are able to do. In this way we help Him. For truly, the creator of the Universe does not need our help and can accomplish His will at the utterance of a word. Instead, He shows His love for us by allowing us to help him in these things.
When a young child helps their parent they learn more about the nature of their parent by seeing the work done. The child sees how the parent reacts to certain situations, what tools are used, and when to use them. As the child helps and grows, that child begins to recognize the tools of their parent and can begin to anticipate what will be asked of them. The child slowly matures and becomes a better helper for their parent.
In this same way, if we as adults continue to help God by doing His will, we will also begin to grow and know Him better. We will be able to anticipate what is going to be expected of us and when to use the skills He has given us. We will have the words to say because we will know His words. We will know what actions to take because we will have seen His actions in the world.
But for us to grow, we must be obedient children to our God. We must be watching Him and no other. We must listen to and obey His instructions, not the instructions of our peers. For children will often try to teach other children whether they know the right way to do something or not. Because of this, many children are led astray in how to act and in what is right. So too do we as adults sometimes seek the consul of those who would tell us what we want to hear and not what God would tell us.
When seeking guidance, seek the word of God. If you need help with this, find a person who will help you read and understand His word for the answer to the question or problem you are facing.